You, who would not ever consider suicide:
Please remember those of us
who considered it in the first grade.
Your standards are not ours.
Your condescension is not helpful.
You, who would call us selfish,
remember Oscar Wilde said
“Selfishness is not living your life
as you wish, it is asking others
to live their lives as you wish.”
You, who would control the manner
and moment of death to suit you.
No thank you. When I decide the pain
is too great, you do not even enter the equation.
My life is not yours, it is mine, and my death
is always beyond your control.
Shut the fuck up about how it hurts you.
You would call me a coward in the face of This?
Had I been hit by a bus it would hurt you less?
My end is not yours. If I had cancer
it would be no less terminal. Some survive,
You protest? Fuck you. Remember this:
Your judgement at this moment speaks
more of your lack of sympathy
than it ever did of my choice.
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“Thing is, if we could get our culture to disconnect the righteously angry woman from the crazy unreasonable context it mostly has attached. The fact that we really do experience this every day, and thank you men, we really don’t want to need your protection, just want to walk into the mall without some man walking toward us and we have to decide if he is dangerous or not, and then he says fine or fat, one or the other and we still have to decide if he’s dangerous or not, and think omg I have on those ankle strappy heels and can’t run, and look around that parking lot for other people. It’s that all that ^ is so ingrained in us we just do it and it’s part of the day. I am perfectly willing to protect myself if needed but I weigh 130 lbs and have about 2 seconds to make that damage work if I can before I am on my back, then pray my hands are not pinned so I can sink my nails into his soft parts. Seriously.
“Do you fucking get it now? That is what we all do, what we are all taught to do (except the damage part, only some of us learn that).”